Thank You


I am so far behind where I want this blog to be.  I have several posts floating around my head...  So many (unfinished) posts (trying to be heard), and so very little time to finish them in..  I hope to get some catch up done soon - but this was one post I could not afford to let slip away. 

It needed to be said.



Friends.

Friends can be an AMAZING asset.  There is an old saying states something to the effect of "You can never have enough friends", but alas, a father of five has precious little spare time - and as much as I'd love to, the ability to spend a lot (or even a little) amount of time hanging with friends is (at best) a difficult undertaking.  (Just ask Best Bud Ed... He'll tell you).

Yet, time and time again - I find the roll my friends play in my life to be invaluable to me.

Friends come in all shapes and sizes.  There is (of course) my very best friend, my confidant, my adviser, and co-partner in life - my wife.  The Mother of Five.  I am unable to imagine (or even to BEGIN to imagine) what my life with be like without her grace and presence in it.  God himself truly shone down upon me the day I met her, and (thankfully) my life has never been the same since.

Yet, despite all I gush on and on about how wonderful it is to have The Mother of Five in my life, she can not fulfill every aspect / trait / roll that a friend does...  What one person could?  To that, I turn to a few others that I am forever grateful to have in my life.

We all have a few special friends in our lives.  Friends that have been there through thick and thin.  Friends that will come to our aid when we are in need.  Friends that have been there since we were kids.  Friends that we have grow up and matured together with.  Friends that have had to adapt to the changes in our lives - the addition of spouses, the birth of children, the moving to distant locations.  These are the folks that we will be playing cribbage with, or getting together for lunch with as senior citizens.  Despite my busy schedule, and issues with "social anxiety", I am fortunate to have a handful of these truly AMAZING friends that have stuck it out with me throughout the years.  They will never know how grateful I truly am for who they are, and all they (unknowingly) do for me - if for nothing else, just by being there.

Recently, I was in need of a "sounding board" of sorts.  Someone to bounce a story off of.  It was not so much that I was looking for advise, as I was needing to relate a story…  I did consult with The Mother of Five and a couple of those few special friends I have.  Their reaction / advise was (as I anticipated) predictable. 

When I say "predictable", I do not in ANY way mean that to be a bad thing...  Their predictable reaction affirmed my feelings, and is exactly why these folks are so special to me.  Our thoughts are so similar.

Although In this instance I needed something more.  Something DIFFERENT.  I wanted an unbiased and fresh view.  In this need, I stepped out of my zone of comfort and did something pretty uncharacteristic.  I turned to a couple of "safe" folks.  These are folks I have met through less traditional methods, and had no real stake in the topic being discussed.  These are folks that I never hung out with in my youth (although I suspect if presented with the opportunity, they would have been!)  They are folks that could have easily ignored my communication, and neither they or I would have been out of any significant emotional investment. All of us could have (and would have) continued the relationship we had already established - status quo - without interruption.

What I received in return was...  Well, it was exactly what I needed to hear and how I needed to hear it.  These folks really stepped up to the plate.  They (unknowingly) stepped in as a pinch hitter and knocked one outta the park for me. 

Although their words were similar to what I was thinking myself, and were almost identical to what I had heard already, these words...  They were... "Different".  They were affirming.  They were comforting.  They were emotional.  They were exactly what I would have expected from a friend.  A TRUE FRIEND.

This post is not about the details.  It's not about the who (they know who they are) or the what (they know what I am talking about). 

I write this post to serve as a reminder to ME

A reminder that it's OK to step out of my socially anxious comfort zone once and a while.  A reminder to look beyond the obvious for answers.  To look beyond the obvious for suggestions, and above all, to look beyond the obvious, not give into my fears, not to take the easy path, to take the risk and not be afraid to reach out to challenge myself and to embrace the friendships that are out there.  They can be so rewarding.

I am fortunate to have some AMAZING people in my life.  And I am thankful for each and every one of them and the friendships they offer – both new and old alike!

2 comments:

  1. This blogging world is a beautiful place whee I have met many an incredible person and a small close niche of true friends.

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  2. Very touching. And a wonderful reminder.

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